Step 1: Fashion
Listen to this short, 6-minute
personal fashion journey from RedpoleQ
If you’re like me, you were influenced a lot by your mother. Mothers are great. I love mine. And here’s the problem. She loves me too.
Unconditionally.
Unfortunately, that’s not how the real world works. That’s not how women who aren’t your mom work.
You have a job, and I bet, that when you went for your job interview you looked your best. Of course, they weren’t screening you for your fashion sense, but you know that if you want to get the job you better present well.
Guys never cease to underestimate the value of looking well and dressing well. What is the art of dressing well when it comes to women?
What makes fashion hard is that there is no one way to dress. It all depends on the type of women you’re going for. You start off by looking at the kind of guys your type of girl is with. From there you want to dress just a bit better than them.
Add just a little more unique, personal flair, or do it just a bit bigger. The key is to fit in and yet stand out.
Fit in, and yet stand out. That’s a paradox if I’ve ever heard one. What’s up with that? Well, it comes down to communication. Each style of clothing communicates something different about you.
We’ll go down that rabbit hole later.
Be very careful when taking fashion advice from good intentioned friends. Guy friends will subconsciously sabotage your fashion forays because they can be intimidated by you changing yourself. Female friends will often hold you back because they want to mother you rather than make you the kind of guy that will have them fending off their girlfriend’s jealous advances.
Fashion is not about money. In fact when you’re starting out, buy the cheapest stuff you can find because you’re experimenting and experiments do go awry.
I know when I was developing my style I had to throw out tons of pants, tops and accessories because they just didn’t fit me nor my image, quite right.
Before you ask, good fashion sense is not a absolutely necessary to be successful with women.
It will make your life a lot easier, though.
6 keys to developing your unique personal style:
1)Fashion matters
2)Dress for your target audience
3)Be aware of what your style choices communicate
4)Be very careful whose advice you trust
5)Do it on the cheap
6)Experiment, test, new experiment, test, new experiment
Remember, women are looking for the best match. It’s right there in the words. So appear to be the best match and you’re one step ahead of the game.
“What is the game?” you ask. Your next step will help you figure that out…
